How would you feel if you were a person with good grades, always helping others out when you’re able to, being able to finish your desired course with no problems (only a few minor issues), with time for your hobbies, and then…you can’t land a job? How would you feel? Everyone would feel differently, I’m sure.
For me, however, this plays a major role in my depression and, of course, there are a lot of things that could affect the way you’d feel about that. But, there are 3 main reasons I think have the most impact:
The Job You Applied To
If this was a job you were really looking forward to, then I suspect you’d feel sad and maybe a bit angry too. Specially if you applied for the same position at different places and they didn’t even call you back.
If this was “just another job”, one you’re not particularly fond of, then you’d probably feel like you can just keep trying and something better would come up. Right?
The Amount Of Opportunities Near You
Living in a big city doesn’t always mean you have more opportunities, but in a general way, that’s true. That being said, people living in a less populated area have (overall) lower chances of getting their desired job or even a job at all.
The Amount Of Time You’re Looking For A Job
In the first week of looking for a job, you start thinking “Okay, it’s only been a week, I didn’t really expect it to be so fast anyways!” and that’s alright. That’s not a negative way at looking at things. There are thousands of us looking for the same thing that, well, we can’t all get at the same time. But if you’re looking for over a year (which is my case), you just start thinking less and less of yourself and your skills. And there’s probably nothing wrong with any of us, other than having some bad luck chasing what we really want.
And if you’ve read this thus far, you’re probably wondering: What does any of this have to do with games? Games kept me sane through this. This is not a joke, this not an overstatement. That wasn’t the only thing doing so, but it’s a good part of why I’m still able to act the way I do and part of the reason I’m improving. Now, I’m not addicted to gaming, but it’s a big part of who I am and I realised I can use it to be a better version of myself.
Sounds cheeky and cliché, right? I know, but that’s how I feel. And I were to give out any advice… It’d be: don’t give up on doing what you like and don’t give up on improving yourself either. It really is frustrating to not being able to get a job (or when you finally do, you collapse with the pressure – more on this on a future post). Fight the bad feelings. It’s easier said than done…but you can trust me on this: it’s worth it!